Friday, June 17, 2022

Goddammit Jacob

Back in February I had made a Tinder account. One that David found and ended up deleted but as a result of that I did end up with a couple new people to talk to. David blocked them but I unblocked them but didn't really say much. Anyway a couple weeks after Philip died I was feeling so lost and desperate for a distraction I started talking to one of the guys again. We would send Snapchat messages to each other all day, beginning with Good morning and ending with good night. I didn't expect it to go anywhere, I just liked having someone to talk to and keep my mind occupied, He was nice and looked good so t was fun. He was 23 and living at a sober house 30 minutes away and he said he didn't know a lot of people in that town. I don't know a lot of people up here either so it was nice to have another friend.

He said nice things about how much he liked me and enjoyed talking to me and that I was beautiful and he would say he missed me and he was eager for me to respond to his messages while I was sleeping in the day time. I started to really like him too. 

He wanted to hang out or whatever and I was in his town on a Thursday and he wanted me to come by but David knew where  I was and I couldn't make it. So we planned for Saturday morning. I downloaded a GPS spoofer for my phone so I could throw off my signal and claim that I had to work late that day. We were all excited to meet. Then David looked at my messages one morning and he found out and was angry. He talked to Jacob and threatened him and stuff. It was a big thing. Jacob tried to send me a message on messenger since my Snapchat wasn't working. I argued with David and tried to get legitimate permission to meet my friend. And I got my permission. We decided on Wednesday because he was supposed to go into jail on Thursday for 20 days.

But after the weekend Jacob just wasn't the same. He was nice enough and we would message each day but he wasn't saying all the sweet messages anyone. He became more distant and less responsive. And I thought as Wednesday arrived that he would be more excited but he wasn't. He was kinda "meh" about everything. In my experience guys are a bit more excited about that sort of thing. 

I asked if David had ruined us and he said no. And he claimed that he didn't talk a lot unless he really knows someone so I kept trying to get him to talk.  I kept asking him why he had changed and he said he didn't. But I noticed it. 

On Wednesday I woke up early and I started messaging him to make plans. But he just wasn't as responsive and he didn't seem to care if I came over or not. It also turns out he was drinking all day since it was his last day before jail. I told him I was uncomfortable about the drinking but ultimately I agreed to go.I had a tough time getting a hold of him to make the plans. And his answers became very brief and vague. He also mentioned that he thought we were more exciting thinking about me cheating and after David found out it wasn't as fun. It's like he turned into an entire different person in a day.

He still never looked at the last message I sent him. I mean I could have said "I'm on my way now!" and he never looked at it!

I'm just so baffled that a person can change in a day like that. Was it the drinking that changed him? The thought about going into jail? Was he just lying and playing with my head for a month? Was he ever really my friend?  I just wish I knew the answers. I feel foolish. And hurt. And the rejection hurts. 

Addendum: 8-11-22

As soon as Jacob got out of jail guess what he did. Message me. So Jacob and I snapped back and forth for awhile. I really wanted to go meet him but David was adamant that I couldn't. He called him a homewrecker or some nonsense. Big words considering I never even had sex with the guy. Anyway, I feel like Jacob and I got bored of each other. I mean, sex was the intent the entire time and since we couldn't meet, it was pointless to continue talking. And I tried to think of any way possible that I could get over there to do this guy. But I couldn't think of a solid plan that David wouldn't figure out. David is my #1 cock blocker. David was all like, "if you meet him I'll make sure he goes back to jail". I wish he'd calm down a little. Such is life. David said I could go meet a different guy named Hunter. A little further of a drive but he's got the green light from David so I am hoping to make that happen soon.